The Final View

Many people don’t realise the level of involvement they can have in personally participating in the preparation of their loved one for their final resting place.

Preparation may involve helping with the washing or dressing of their loved one, or holding a viewing prior to the service. It’s an incredibly healing and important act and one that we encourage at H.Parsons. In many religions and cultures, these rituals are traditional, and as we increasingly understand the benefits of these practices in the grieving process, more and more people are opting to actively participate.

Viewing

A viewing is a special way for families to spend some quiet time in reflection with the person who has passed prior to the service. In many instances, family and close friends are also invited to attend.

For some cultures it’s an integral part of their tradition; clergy along with family and friends attend to offer prayers and give thanks for a life well lived. Viewings often take place at our chapel, either just prior to the service or the afternoon before, however, they can be held at other locations. Some funerals also have the casket or coffin open throughout the service at the family’s request.

Dressing

Many families will choose the outfit for their loved one to be farewelled in. This may be a favourite outfit, or clothing that reflects their personality. The “outfit” can include everything from undergarments, right down to accessories such as a scarf, a tie and jewellery. Specific make-up and hairstyling can be requested and a recent photo of your loved one is a huge help in making sure they look their best. If your loved one always wore a favourite lipstick, then bring it in. (Make-up provided will not be returned for hygienic reasons). H.Parsons’ mortuary staff include qualified embalmers specialising in cosmetic restoration who will be happy to assist you.

You may also choose to place some personal items with your loved one, or have our team place them for you. These could include special mementos, items of significance, even a grandchild’s drawing. Valuables such as jewellery or other accessories can be returned if you wish, so make sure you let your Funeral Director know.

In some cultures, the items included are fixed; our Funeral Directors are experienced in working with families from many different cultures in the greater Illawarra community and are here to guide and assist.

Sometimes dressing and viewing your deceased is not advisable. This may be due to physical trauma or the effects of disease on your loved one potentially causing distress for the family. Your funeral director and mortuary team will guide you on this, however, ultimately the final decision is yours.

H.Parsons’ treats everyone who comes into their care with the same level of respect. If there are no preferences for dressing, then the deceased will still be washed and prepared with utmost care, ensuring they depart with dignity.

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